One said "it's sad" and " I knew this was a bigger deal than you had let on". Well, yeah - arrest is arrest. Hard to sweep it under the rug. But I really didn't/don't think it's sad, though it saddens me to hear that.
The other said "perhaps you should see a mental health professional". Geez - I thought I was handling this pretty well; processing, observing myself, grateful, avoiding a victim persona, working through it with aplomb and some humor, admittedly a bit dark here and there.
Moral of story - no more such invitations. Maybe more jokes.
Here's one I like, for no reason:
An eight year old was asked "How can you tell if two people are married"?.
Response: "I guess you could try to figure out if they are yelling at the same kid".